Today, is T.J.’s 20th birthday. Today, I reflect on all the wonderful moments I shared with my beautiful boy. I don’t dwell on his death or the devastating depression that stole T.J. from us. The moment of his death never leaves me, but today it is his life I focus on. Today, I can still remember the joy I felt when all 9 pounds 6 ounces of T.J. was placed in my arms. From the minute he was born, life took on a new luster. Everything was brighter with T.J. He was a wonderful