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May 13, 2019

On a December morning 8 years ago, my 16-year-old son T.J. died by suicide. T.J. was the middle of our three sons. He left behind 2 brothers— 13-year-old Matt and 17-year-old John. Since that time, we have moved through many of life’s milestones without T.J. There are...

November 30, 2018

Each passing year I think, “This year will be easier. It’s just another day.” But then December 1st approaches and I find myself sinking into the memories of that day 8 years ago when our precious T.J. left us. His death by suicide still reverberates in my mind and sou...

October 15, 2018

As I travel this journey of loss I am reminded that there are blessings all around us even in the most tragic of circumstances if we are open to letting love in. One of the blessings I have found since losing T.J. is in new friendships with people who share the journey...

September 23, 2018

My precious boy T.J. left this world in 2010. He was 16. Since then, as each September rolls around my heart begins to get heavier and heavier as I anticipate his birthday. 

I do my best to shift my focus to the immense joy the day brought to me 24 years ago when T.J. b...

May 13, 2018

“Mother's Day is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society.” Since the death of my son T.J. Mother’s Day has taken on a completely different meaning for me. In the first few years aft...

May 6, 2018

Hindsight is 20/20. That’s a phrase I’ve been hearing all my life, but never did I realize how true it was until I lost my T.J. to suicide. In the years since, I’ve spent so much time going over every detail of his life looking for clues, trying to figure out what I mi...

January 14, 2018

I am so grateful I had the opportunity to see the movie Wonder today. It should be required viewing for, well, everyone!  Although I am an avid reader, somehow this amazing book escaped my orbit. My interest was piqued when someone mentioned that a school in Essex Coun...

December 31, 2017

As we move into 2018, for me it marks yet another year on this earth without T.J. December 1st marked 7 years since he left us so suddenly. It is still so hard for me to believe. Sometimes I still wake up hoping it was all just a horrific nightmare and then as the slee...

December 1, 2017

7 years ago today I woke up and had no idea that in mere hours my entire world would implode. T.J., my precious child, 2nd born of my 3 beautiful boys, would die by suicide. 7 years later it still rocks my soul to write those words. 7 years later I am not only still st...

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